When you think about how well you are doing in your life what do you think about it?
How happy are you?
How secure are you?
How fulfilled are you?
How much joy do you feel?
How great are your relationships?
How deep is your love for your partner?
Maybe you think about material things.
Maybe you think about your business.
Perhaps then your thoughts flow to other people in your friend circles, community, business community.
Do you compare yourself to them and what you see of them on social or when you hear stories?
Let’s face it. It’s natural. We’ve been taught these ideas that there has to be a “Who wore it better?” or “Who is the winner?” since we were playing t-ball or deciding who had the most dolls.
But we’re not little kids anymore are we?
Let’s look at comparison objectively for a moment.
Comparison from a macro place is a huge distraction from taking care of yourself, honing your craft, becoming wildly confident, and speaking your Truth with authenticity and passion.
Who needs that? You’ve got people to help and life to be fully present in.
On a micro level, comparison is a joy stealer. It’s the thief of everything.
There is the argument that it can be fueling…but where do you get more fuel? You have to go back to comparison and thinking of yourself as the loser to be fueled again. THIS IS A DANGEROUS CYCLE that puts you in the loser seat thinking about shoulds, woulds, and coulds.
The most powerful fuel is to peel back the layers of emotions and decide what you are really passionate about, what truly matters to you in your life, how you want to impact people, and what the standards you have for yourself and the way that you live.
That isn’t about ANYONE else. It’s only about you.
Comparison and fake competitions steal your attention from super fuel.
When you find yourself comparing, wishing, hoping that you were like “so-and-so” then bring yourself back to your own plans.
Practice thinking about what you want, how you want to share your message, the actions and behaviors that are aligned for YOU…and think about the next level version of yourself. Is she you or is she someone else? That was a trick question. SHE’S YOU!
You are the ONLY ONE who knows her and you’ll never find her trying to make your life look like someone else’s.
Keep finding her and deepening your relationship with her, you won’t regret it. I promise.
If you have some layers (doubt, fear, anxiety, anger, stuck, frozen) that you want to peel back to find her faster and easier while feeling deeply supported, I’m here for you.
My mission is to help you feel your personal power and embody your highest level so that you can help lead others and create a massive ripple of good in the world.
Let’s do good work together.
Create a special week for yourself (with no comparison). See you soon.