Yep, You read that correctly.
Thinking positively can be bad…when it’s forced.
Authentic joy and positivity are glorious feelings. However, faking, forcing, or fighting to be positive can be dangerous for your mind and body.
This is an example of spiritual bypassing. Spiritual bypassing essentially means avoiding or sidestepping the feelings and emotional development and focusing on the tool or philosophy instead.
Another example is telling someone who is suffering, “But you have so much to be grateful for!” (And completely ignoring the loss or pain.)
This kind of thing is dangerous because it keeps you from feeling your feelings.
Your feelings need and deserve to be felt. We learn from them, and we help them from getting trapped when we acknowledge and feel them.
Sadness, anger, frustration, hurt, guilt, shame, embarrassment, fear, anxiety, and so on tend to be considered “negative” emotions because they don’t feel great.
Since they don’t feel great, it’s natural to want to shift out of them, push them away, and even pretend to be detached from them.
We aren’t taught how to handle emotions, usually.
We are often taught to find comfort or think about something else quickly so we can move on.
But the subconscious mind and our body work together to keep these feelings from happening again.
Avoiding them, moving away from them, ignoring them DOES NOT ACTUALLY MAKE THEM GO AWAY.
Instead, it can prolong suffering and create anxiety, depression, and rage.
As a not so great bonus: your mind will begin to believe avoidance of any activity, connection, relationship, or moment of vulnerability is safer for you than feeling any emotional pain.
The subconscious mind will help you sabotage yourself and keep from love, connections, growth, spiritual growth spurts, and even MONEY because it is trying to keep you safe from these feelings.
The solution? Feel your feelings.
Take a breath. I know that can be scary. I’ve had to learn how to do it too.
Feel your feelings and give yourself loads of compassion.
Release yourself from the idea that you have to judge your feelings as good or bad, positive or negative.
Allow yourself to feel the feelings as long as you need to. You’ll know when it’s time to move forward.
It won’t take very long.
Then when YOU (not your friends, family, society, or anyone else) are ready, you can use your tools to shift into a higher vibration/more enjoyable/lighter emotion.
Please refrain from using your tools to avoid feeling.
You’ll heal your emotions faster, AND you will actually create more confidence and trust in yourself.
It’s true. When you allow yourself to feel, you will get more comfortable with your range of emotions, and you’ll trust yourself to take more action in your life!
You will be far less afraid of failing and then feeling all the feelings that go along with it. Yessss!
Instead, you’ll take more action and calculated risks, and this, my love, is what creates success.
Practice being with your feelings. Place your hand on your heart and honor your mind and body’s response to what has happened. Give yourself loads of love and compassion. And move into other emotions when you’re ready.
Practice makes better.
Let me know if you have any questions.
If you want to know how my programs help you heal old trapped emotions like anxiety and rage and help you create FREEDOM, JOY, AND WEALTH in your life, reach out, and I’ll give you more info.
I’m here to help.
Create a special week for yourself. See you soon.
About the Author:
Rebecca Wiener McGregor is an Amplifier of Love and catalyst for breakthroughs! She shares her gifts as a transformational hypnotist + money mindset coach committed to helping visionary women live their Truth, step into their Divine Purpose, and create the life of their dreams. Over the last 17 years, she has helped thousands of clients to release old blocks, traumas, loss, and hidden fears to find a deeper sense of self-worth and determination to live life on their own terms. Using that self-worth and determination as fuel to create the life they’ve been dreaming of with deeper connection, more joy, more impact, wealth, and more fun!
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